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The Ultimate Soirée: Flattering Light, Heavy Pours and a Great Guest List

According to the sensational New York event planner and Houses & Parties founder, Rebecca Gardner, these are the most important elements of a successful party.
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When it comes to throwing an unforgettable holiday event, Rebecca Gardner, founder and creative director of event and interiors firm Houses & Parties brings her singular sense of whimsy and elegance to every gathering. Gardener is the doyenne of surprise and delight, with an irreverent style that’s equal parts Southern gentile and old world bacchanal, and always with a strong dose of the eccentric. 

Here, Gardner shares her secrets to throwing the ultimate holiday party, from crafting perfectly filtered lighting to serving up the stiffest cocktails. Whether you're planning an intimate dinner or a late night soirée, her tips will elevate your holiday hosting game.

Culture Lounge: How do you approach lighting for a party? Do you have any hard and fast lighting rules? 

Rebecca Gardner: I avoid overhead lights like the plague. Dim them low, low, low. Stick to candlelight at the table. I use candles at various heights (e.g. tall candelabra, short votives, and silk table lamp shades for soft diffused light). Everyone looks pretty in dim light and everyone has a better time when they feel pretty. 

What’s your philosophy when it comes to crafting a party menu? Any signature items you always serve, or conversely, that you steer clear of? 

I really hate complicated and stinky canapes. If you're hosting a seated dinner, don't let canapes spoil appetites. I like cheese straws, salted pecans—simple nibbles at the bar.  When I plan a menu, I serve delicious comfort food with lots of options for picky eaters. A substantial protein, a sinful starch, and lots of fresh colorful vegetable dishes. Dessert is always a show. Cover it in sparklers, wheel it out on a cart. Give them something to talk about. 

What’s your go-to holiday cocktail? Do you have a signature drink or a way to elevate the bar experience for guests? 

I love Jean Georges ginger margarita. The recipe is on his website. I triple the ginger and it's very refreshing (almost medicinal). In the winter, I like to remind everyone how fun it is to drink bourbon. 

Which songs or artists do you rely on to set the party mood? How do you arrange your playlists? 

I am sadly predictable in my music choices, but they work. I start the night with Pink Martini and end with 90s Hip Hop (really loud). 

What role does decor play in creating a party? Are there any signature touches you incorporate?

You can go on and on with decor, and I do, but I think the most important elements of a successful party are flattering light, heavy pours, and a great guest list.  

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Can you share some unique traditions or personal touches that your family or friends add to holiday parties?

I always invite the real Santa Claus to appear after dinner with a bag full of goodies like lotto tickets, cigarettes, and peppermint taffy.  

What would you never do as a host?

I would never fail to make thoughtful introductions to guests who might not know each other. The most gracious gift you can give is a new friend.  

What's your number one rule for hosting a holiday party?

Invite an interesting mix of people.  

Can you recall a favorite party memory? 

I used to host a dinner every New Year's eve with my best friend. It was a seated dinner and we made everyone participate in a boisterous Christmas Carol between courses. They had to sing for their supper.  

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